That question is why this post is about realization, acceptance, and action in the face of any or all of these situations, when, for any variety of reasons, you feel like you're at the end of your rope.
This post is about empowering yourself and feeling confidence in who you are and what you want, even when certain aspects of your vision change for whatever reason. Sure, it's okay to feel sadness, anger, frustration; all that is part of the human experience, but moving beyond that is the other part of it, the more powerful part (if you let it be), the part that occurs when you engage your inner wisdom to address it.
You can't just use your inner wisdom when things are going well. In fact, I'd argue that being connected to its strength is even more important when disruption occurs. Believe me on this one; I've been dealing with two major issues this summer on top of a mountain of ongoing things. So, how do we rely on our inner wisdom in times of stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, anger, and/or sadness? When our plans go awry? How do we engage our inner wisdom to help us move forward?
If you spend time engaging your inner wisdom when things are going well, it will be there when things are not going so well. It is where you will find the strength to get out of a bad relationship, stop allowing yourself to be treated without respect, stand up for injustice, and even process personal tragedy.
Let me give you a simple example. Two days ago, I saw a little girl who lives on my street; she was crying. When I asked her what was wrong, she said her brother called her a mean name. So, I said, "What if I call you a name that isn't mean? Will that make you stop crying?"
She looked at me confused.
"Well," I went on, "What if I call you pretty? Does that make you want to cry?"
"No," she fought a smile.
"You are pretty. You know that right?"
I covered her lips with my finger. "What if I called you smart? Everyone on the street always says how smart you are. Are you smart?"
"Yes," the smile was a little harder to hold back.
"What about the dance you did at the block party? It was good. You're a good dancer."
She smiled as she wiped her eyes.
"Now, if you know that you are smart and pretty and a good dancer, why would you let one little thing that your brother said, that isn't true, make you so sad?"
She smiled at me, stood up and went back to playing.
Acknowledge the problem for what it is, but keep the majority of your power focused on the positive aspects of who you are and what your inner wisdom tells you. That is where you will find the strength to realize, accept, and take action to address the problem.
Remember, your plans may experience setbacks and obstacles, but these troubles can be overcome by trusting and empowering your inner wisdom. Your inner wisdom would not let you give power to negativity.
Practice Engaging Your Inner Wisdom: There are many ways you can create reminders for yourself of what your inner wisdom is and how it supports you. Here are two ideas you can try:
1) While you're making your plans, make a second list of the attributes you possess that will allow you to accomplish them. This can include not only things directly related to the plans, but also attributes that make you who you are.
2) Make a collage following the same idea. Find images related to your plans and that reflect your personal attributes. Show how those attributes support your plans.
When something causes those plans to go awry, consult your list or collage and let it help you reconnect or stay connected to your inner wisdom so that you can overcome the issue.